Author: Miles Alex (Page 3 of 13)

“Smile And The World Will Smile With You!”

“They say to smile and the world will smile with you. For some strange reason, it never seems to work for me, though.

“Take today, on this humid summer morning here in NYC. I walked out of my apartment heeling all sticky and sweaty, but with a cheery perspective, smiling at everyone on the street, waving to passersby, even attempting to crack jokes with the cop at the intersection directing traffic. I was in such a jolly mood, I even recited verses from the works of Milton and Shakespeare as I tumbled along.

“No one reciprocated my warmth and cheeriness. I did see a senior lady whip out her cell and a few moments later a van pulled up, and a man in a white coat followed by another with a net, dashed after me. I darted into the subway and am sitting here typing this status update, still trying to figure what that was all about.

“What a weird world we live in. Oh well, not to worry, though. My day is still off to a decent start. Even as I keep on smiling and reciting my verses, I am thankful that I somehow always end up getting a whole subway car to myself! Now if that isn’t getting off to a great start of the week here in NYC, then I sure don’t know what is!

“Happy Weekend, folks!…”Escapades of Miles Alex”

“There’s Always Charity To Fall Back On!”

“Sometimes, one has to be resourceful to get by in life – especially when things don’t fall into one’s lap as they might sometimes do for others around one.

“When I was a lad, folks would always come up to me and say,
‘Son, when you grow up, you’ll have a hard time landing a good woman. These days, women go for looks or money, and since you have neither, you’d better be prepared to be a bachelor all your life.’

“See, I could have run for the hills, become a monk, or given up on life. But I did not. I did find a third way to snag a lovely woman. When all else fails, there’s always charity.

“The moral of my story is this – looks and money may get you in, but you can easily lose either someday. Never give up if you lack both. Your lady may not get a tax write-off, but if you can win her over by appealing to her charitable instincts, there’s no need to write yourself off either.”….”Tips For My Male Buddies”…Miles Alex.

“Just A Hot Babe Who’s Also Good In The Kitchen!”

“I’m not one to fall for deceptive ads. I mean, I walk into a showroom and I never let the sales rep talk me into something I don’t really need. But I guess, loneliness drove me to scour online ads for a wife from the Far East. And I figured, what the hell, these western gals don’t even wanna turn on the kettle for their man when he comes home after a hard day’s work.

“So I figured I’d kill two birds with one stone and get a companion as well as a cook. The ad said she was a hot babe and that she was also good in the kitchen.

“Well, I met her as she disembarked the plane. Damn! Either this was the old bait and switch where she sent me her friend’s pics or she had photoshopped her original pic beyond recognition before emailing it to me. The only thing hot about her was the fever she caught when the plane flew over Alaska on its way to America.

“And good in the kitchen? Yeah, it was there that she would always devour the take- out I was forced to bring home every evening after work when I learned she did not even know how to light a stove”…”The Sad Life and Times of Johnny Amazon”

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“The Human Race”

My dear readers, I often write pieces on group associations and living in a diverse world. I try to point out both the positive aspects of groups and their limitations, in the context of the world at large.

While I too enjoy camaraderie with various groups with which I might share some commonalities, I am mindful not to believe that life is all about “my group vs. your group,” or that everyone in “my group or groups” will necessarily hold all the ideals and positive characteristics that will make the world a better place.

My writings are not intended to demoralize or ridicule anyone or to pull the rug out from under them. I know that it is often comforting for many to see life as black and white and to think that one’s own group – whether based on religion, race, tribe, ethnicity, or nationality – will be the one that holds all the virtues needed to make the world a better place.

Many of you know by now that I do not subscribe to such a notion, for I believe that there is good and bad in all groups, in every geographical area of the world, and every stratum of society.

My writings are not meant to debunk the myths that exist just to leave readers hanging in despondency. They are meant to offer a better alternative – one that sees the beauty of sharing common characteristics with others in one’s group without denying that evil as well as good exists everywhere.

It is my deepest yearning that once this becomes accepted, some readers will then see life in a better and more truthful way…and end up working collectively with all others to make the largest group to which we all belong a better one for us all.

That group is the group called the human race.

“Racism Can be A Painful Two-Way Street”

Anyone who has been a victim of racism has endured one of the ugliest and most despicable of all human experiences. To be hated, disliked, or discriminated against purely because of one’s skin color, and not one’s character,  leaves one demoralized – even if only temporarily. One is in good standing to feel resentment at the perpetrator of racial bigotry. And it gets worse if that perpetrator wields some power or authority and can make decisions that affects one’s feeling of well-being or security, or deprives one of an opportunity not denied others of a different race.

One must be careful, though, as difficult and arduous as it might be, given the magnitude of the racism, to not react by assuming that ALL members of the bigot’s race feel identically as he or she does. And one must not consequently, in turn, harbor hate and prejudice against the racist’s own race because of his or her actions.

In doing so, one falls victim to the same generalizations, the same ugliness, and the same mentality that characterize those who discriminate against others or harm or deny them legal or other  rights because of their race.

To be sure, there have been times in human history, and it even occurs today in some parts of the world, where racism was or is institutionalized. When (as in the days of “recent” world history) during slavery or the Holocaust or apartheid, entire groups were victimized by large racial/ethnic majorities, it was understandable for victims to react with fear or anger against those races whose members hurt them.

Throughout history,  it has been an ugly characteristic of human nature to feel prejudice against others for their race or ethnicity, religion or creed, class or caste, or some other similar distinction. And when the discrimination is part and fabric of everyday life, of the legal apparatus, or of custom, such institutionalization seems to  leave little or no alternative for victims but to react with hate at those  groups whose own hatred deprive others of their own rightful place.

Barring such a status quo, for those who live in places where prejudice in not universal or legalized or institutionalized, it is essential not to harbor hate against all members of any race because of the acts of specific individuals. And even in those circumstances, one must note that even large majorities do not speak on behalf of ALL within their group.

If one were to do hate others or to discriminate against them based entirely on their race,  one would be applying the same unsound, unjust, erroneous, irrational and ugly rationale applied by the one whose bigotry has caused one angst or pain.

“You Can’t Go Home Again”

A famous author once wrote that you can never go back home again. This is so true for most who emigrate to new lands.

Many yearn for the beautiful things they left behind, often momentarily forgetting the reasons that made them leave in the first place. The strategies they employ to deal with that vary from one individual to another. Some find it best to so totally immerse themselves in their adopted homelands that there’s no room for yesterday. Others live a surreal life of one foot here, one foot there – not physically, but via cultural and other associations, and access to foods, entertainment, shopping, and events that are overseas versions of what they left behind.

Yet others, torn between two loyalties and emotional attachments, and often despondent of what they must deal with in the new, physically return home. If stats are any indicator, though, most return to their new home after a short sojourn in the old country. They soon realize that the past cannot ever be fully duplicated. Yes, the geography is the same, but the memories involving family,, friends, and childhood can only be recaptured partially, if at all.

I guess Thomas Wolfe was so right in his book, “You Can’t Go Home Again.” But that applies not just to places of geography, as Wolfe himself surmised. In the human life cycle, we go through so many changes and events. Marriages dissolve, relationships go awry, classes graduate, careers change, jobs turn over, neighbors depart, and neighborhoods change.

It’s all part of life, I guess. But so is romanticizing about yesterday and emoting for the good of the past, present, and hopefully also the future. Both nostalgia and forging ahead are integral parts of the human psyche and life cycle. We all reminisce….but sadly, ever so often, we can never really go back home again.

“Why We Need The U.N.”

People often criticize the U.N. as being a meaningless body because conflicts within and among nations still continue. Some even call for its dismemberment.

Only Amighty God can stop all hostilities…until that day, we need the U.N., just like we need the police and other law enforcement.

Sure, crime continues…but think of how many incidents also have been prevented because of the police. Likewise, we must acknowledge that the U.N. cannot stop all wars… but its validity rests in those it has prevented.

“Reflecting On God And History”

I often conjecture on past atrocities throughout history and feel a seething anger that such events ever occurred. It’s enough to shake the religious beliefs of even the firmest believer.

After such moments of angst and incredulity, though, I immediately rebound. Unless I do, I cannot explain all the marvels of the world. The Big Bang theory and evolution don’t do it for me. Furthermore, events in my own life have adequately convinced me of the existence of God. I would not be here now penning these lines as a writer were it not for the Power and Magnificence of the One in whom I trust and believe.

Yet, questions along the way continue. Perhaps my finite mind has yet to elevate a few levels – or perhaps no human mind can ever comprehend all there is to know about God and the vastness of Creation and the Universe.

Take, for example, the issue of past injustices like human slavery, the Holocaust, conquests and pillaging, genocide and rape, and the establishment of nations where others were forcibly removes and dislocated.

How does one address past crimes against individuals, groups, nations? Should the descendants of those aggrieved rise up and forcibly seek reddress or compensation? Should vengeance be exacted in like manner as the original acts of injustice?

When there are laws in place today which would throw in jail those who follow such reprisals, there is a deterrent. But there is even a larger issue for those who believe in God and justice and who do not wish to blame the innocent for the acts of ancestors or others.

It is here that my belief in God, rather than dwindling, resurges and recharges. See, of there is no God, then villainous acts and atrocities throughout history that were never punished in the human life cycle would never see the light of justice.

Am I just an idealistic writer and human being? Nah – a world without God and without the prospect of a day of reckoning are absolutely beyond my comprehension.

My belief in God trumps such an unfathomable prospect any day.

“The Real Vs. The Fake – Online And In-Person”

Putting your best foot forward is one thing – and it’s often a courteous and considerate thing to do. But pretending to be who or what you are not is another – and a not so delightful thing to those who seek sincerity and authenticity.

I’ve encountered so many fakes online over the years that I often wondered whether I was attending a year-round Halloween party. But I’ve also met some wonderful, genuine individuals who’ve added something special to my life as I hope I’ve added to theirs – whether as a writer or teacher or just as a pal whom they’ve met via my personal timeline.

It is always best to be oneself. rather than to try to please the world. Sure, some will drop off if they determine that you aren’t the type of friend they’d like. But there’ll be others who’ll ask to come into your life because they see in you something that is of value and bona fide.

As we go through life, we all mature, we sometimes correct errors of the past, or see life a bit differently than we did the day before. It is then appropriate to re-focus, to adapt…even to change so that we “better” ourselves along the way. No one is perfect and we all live and hopefully learn.

Until those events occur, though, where one sees the need to change one’s tempo, or to modify, to add or to subtract, it serves one better to be oneself at all times – with sensitivity to others and consideration that we must live and let live.

Everyone is unique. Being a facsimile of another not only creates a
false persona, it can one day boomerang and take down others along with you – leaving the real you to pick up the pieces.

“A Difficult Dilemma Along the Way”

These days, a happy marriage can truly be listed among life’s rarities.The thing about marriage is that the family structure has been the foundation of stable societies for most of recorded human history. When families disintegrate there is a domino effect on the rest of society.

People stay together in unhappy relationships for a multitude of reasons – emotional, financial, the passage of time and the years invested, children, relatives, and other similar factors.

The modern marriage faces a dilemma that those in past centuries did not encounter – since divorce was not as socially acceptable as it is today. Should two unhappy people in a marriage continue to travel together because of considerations like those outlined above, even if they are both miserable and unable to make each other enjoy the short journey of life?

Or should they call it quits, come hell or high water, in order to eke out the best they can in the remaining part of the trip?

Is staying together in a sub-par long-term or marital union the lesser of two evils? Or is going separate ways the better alternative for the sake of both parties?

Maybe, in the final analysis, all one can conclude is that only God knows.

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