As a writer, I write the way I feel, fully cognizant that I do not have a monopoly on understanding all of life’s complexities, or of calling them right for anyone or everyone sometimes, or all the time. I continue to express my thoughts in written word, for it is my anointment from my Creator, it is my talent to express my perspectives through the written medium – and leave it to the reader to ponder, to digest, and to discard or re-evaluate.
Take my perspectives on modern marriages, for example. I firmly believe that in the 21st century, it is imperative that couples recognize that no one person can fulfill all the requirements that another has in order to enjoy life in all its manifestations. No partner, no matter how valuable or valued by a mate, can wear all caps, can meet all the emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and other legitimate needs that one has.
A lover, a spouse cannot be the sole friend, confidante, advisor, cannot bear all the burdens or satisfy all the needs a human being has. To be sure, it is an unfair burden to expect all these of a partner.
It is important that one should hold the object of one’s love in the highest regard and give one’s maximum to that person. One must, however, never shut oneself out from others. No man or woman, no couple is an island unto himself, herself, or themselves. Always leave room in life to enjoy and share with others – loving relatives, caring friends, associates, and others along the way.
Life in the modern era cannot be fully enjoyed if partners so immerse themselves in each other that others are shut out, that social lives and interactions with others are dead,
Such a state of affairs, can in fact, be detrimental. Jealousy, possessiveness, total absorption in a partner which leaves no breathing room for him or her to travel with others or to share with others, expectations for him or her to fulfill all one’s needs in life – these can, in my estimation, cause relationships to become trite and gloomy – and worse yet, even end up in the junk heap.
